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I was a hostess for my first job and got laid off because there wasn’t enough money to keep me around at the same breakfast-lunch restaurant.
I was a waitress for my second job at a small pho restaurant for roughly a year than I said I’m not coming in the next day – and that was it.
In my third job, which lasted two weeks, I was also a waitress for a pho restaurant but quit when the owner started being stingy with my tips.
The fourth job, I was a private tutor, and this was a good gig until school intervenes.
Fifth – I was a tutor for a district – I didn’t get laid off or resign because it was a seasonal contract.
Sixth – I was a tutor for this small company – I got laid off because they didn’t have enough money to keep me around.
Seventh – I worked as a teacher assistant – seasonal through financial aid.
Eighth- I worked in a lab as an assistant – also seasonal through financial aid
Ninth – This was when I started working a real job, where I kept on rolling for nearly three years. I worked as an ABA, aiding children with autism. I absolutely adore this job, and I’m still doing it part-time, even though I already kick-start into my new job.
Tenth – Healthcare with children.
For you, some may be considered jobs and others not-so-much. However, for me, these were all jobs since I held some experience through it. There are some overlaps where I worked two part-time jobs at once.
Believe it or not, I did not officially send in my first resignation letter until my so-called ninth job for a full-time position. It happened less than a month ago, and I was extremely nervous, feeling as though they will hate me for leaving. I had been working that job for almost three years, and it’s excruciatingly scary. This job had been paying the bills and keeping food on the table for me during the most difficult time imaginable. These negative thoughts continuously pop up inside my mind such as:
“What if I’m making a mistake?”
“What if I don’t like my next job?”
“Is the pay really worth it?”
There is no real answer to these questions until you work in that environment and intake everything.
I did my research and quit the proper way, but I got one last meeting with my supervisor next week so let’s see how that goes.
Regardless of the situation you presented in, quitting is always a hard thing to do mainly if you’re comfortable with your job – I had been in this position before. You’ve built relationships with your supervisors and colleagues, and they were there during the pleasant and rough time. They are like your family – 8 or more hours a day. They are your second home, away from your first. The reaction they provided may produce a lot of anxiety where your mind tricks you, making it feel like you’re betraying them.
It’s like being in a relationship and having to tell your partner(s) you have to move on to someone else, who may or may not be better.
A break-up is always rough.
So, yes I know being anxious is normal, so embrace it instead of allowing it to consume you.
Despite all these negative thoughts, remember – you’re not that company first worker and you won’t be the last.
So, don’t think you’re special.
Me: “Laugh that was supposed to lighten the mood.”
ReadersWhoisAbouttoQuittheirJob: “Can we move on?”
Anyways…Here are some tricks and tips aiding you in the whole quitting process:
1. Do Not Ever Spill the Beans:
It’s never a good idea to share new personal information with your colleagues even if you have a close relationship with them. Gossips are a big problem at the workplace, and despite your willingness to participate, you’re a part of it. You don’t want the news of you quitting to reach your manager’s ears, or it can lead to an awkward conversation and damage your relationship with your supervisor.
2. Quit in Person – if you can:
Quitting with an email, throwing a resignation letter at your boss face, or texting is ungrateful and entitled – to something -, primarily if your manager has invested a lot of time and effort into your growth.
Unless you’re working out of state, in another country, or your works hours interfere with the office hours that may seem unnecessary. For example, I had to send in an email for my workplace because I don’t work at the central office branch, and my busy work hours interfere with their opening location. They had to take me off site to go into the office and talk with them briefly about the transition.
However, they appreciate the fact that I send them a notice way ahead of time before discussing the changes instead of squeezing in between rough scheduling.
3. Two Weeks Notice:
Note, that this is the minimum.
I gave a month and a half notice!
You want to give your employee a decent amount of time to find a replacement for you instead of rushing them or leaving the position empty – it’s sort of disrespectful as if your time is more important than theirs.
If you don’t know the optimal amount of notice, you should give, follow your company’s policy about resigning, or take note of the amount of notice other employees gave before they left. According to Leonard Schlesinger, a Professor at Harvard Business School, workers should submit their resignation letter four to six weeks before they go.
4. Notice Letter:
A two weeks’ notice letter is a formality, but sending your resignation information to both human resources and your manager clarifies that you’re leaving the company, solidifies the date of your last day, and prevents the company from making you work longer than intended.
When you write your two weeks’ notice letter, keep it short and sweet. You don’t need to delve into the reasoning of why you’re leaving or what would’ve made you stay at the company – honestly, they can care less. All you need to do is include three main elements in your resignation letter: you’re resigning, when you’re last day work will be, and a brief note of appreciation for the opportunity.
You can also include the date of your resignation, so your employer can verify that you gave them an ample amount of notice before you left, and an offer to train your replacement.
September 3, 2190
Dear [insert name here]
I’m writing to let you know that I’m resigning from my position as the clown for Dr.Adventure Growth, effective September 31, 2190.
I appreciate all Dr.Adventure growth has done great things for my career development. I greatly appreciate the amount of time and effort you invested in my professional growth and all the opportunities you gave me.
Please let know if I can help the company in any way before my last day. I wish you and Dr.Adventure Growth all the best.
Your Typed Name
5. End Game:
Maintaining your productivity and motivation will prove to your manager and colleagues that you’re a responsible and accountable professional. This will leave a strong, lasting impression on your colleagues and make them more likely to refer or recommend you for jobs in the future.
If the last thing your colleagues observe about you is that you stayed dedicated and engaged at work, even though you knew you’re moving on to a new role in matter of a few weeks, they’ll remember you as the person who was committed to finishing what they started more than the person who wrote a viral blog post during their first month of work.
If you slack off during your final weeks, especially when your team is working on a big project or if you have several important tasks to finish, you’ll leave your team with the burden of completing your unfinished pile of work and a negative last impression of your character.
This may or may not apply to you depending on your position at work. Although, helping your replacement learn the ropes of your old role and accelerating her transition will not only improve your old team gain back some lost productivity, but it will also display your gratitude for the opportunity your former employer gave you.
Remember, you are not obligated to work overtime or stay longer than necessary.
7. Goodbye Email or In-Person:
Out of all your colleagues, you’ll usually grow closest with your teammates. They deserve to know about your plans directly from you. Seeing your empty desk and connecting the dots themselves will make them feel like your relationship didn’t mean much to you.
Write a short, but meaningful email to your colleagues to know that you care about all the years you spent together.
Maybe you will rekindle with them in the future.
8. Express Gratitude:
The people who impacted your career the most deserve a personal thank you. Even if you didn’t have the best relationship with your manager, her job was to oversee your growth, so she likely invested a ton of time and effort into you. You probably wouldn’t be where you were today without her guidance.
To express your gratitude, verbally thank her, tell her how much she taught you, and offer some feedback during your exit interview.
9. Don’t Blast:
Unleashing an emotional burst of criticism toward your manager or human resources might feel great at the moment, but after all those emotions are spilled – the after result will not feel good. You don’t want to burn your bridges, even if it is a tough, prickly one.
Quitting your job requires a lot of courage and skill. You can feel guilty about leaving your job, primarily if your manager has invested a lot of time and effort in your development, but, ultimately, you need to do what’s best for your career.
Sometimes, it’s all about you!
10. Request a Reference:
Before you leave, politely ask for a letter of recommendation from your supervisor – even if you may believe he dislike you, you never know. Remember when I told you that you’re not that special – well it’s true to some extent. While time passes, people will move on, and your image may slip to the back of their mind. With a letter of recommendation at hand, you never know when it will be useful.
11. Small Details:
Ask questions and find out about the employee benefits and salary you are entitled to receive – know your contract. Actually, you should’ve read your contract upon being hired. There may be an unused vacation and sick pay – maintain the cash you deserve.
I’ve never hated a single one of my job or boss, but I heard some pretty nasty stuff from my friends/colleagues. Even if you do dislike them with all of your soul, remember to keep a respectful attitude because it may bite you from behind in the future.
Seriously, you can do it! Just don’t pass out during the process!