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Your mind is much more powerful than you know. It can twist a good situation into a bad one and vice a versa. To establish and build the life you can live without regret, you must obtain a positive mindset.
First thing first, there is no such thing as a wholly positive mindset. Negative thoughts are a part of our mind, and there is no possible way to demolish it. Positive and negative thoughts are like Yin and Yang or the Angel and Devil – pushing and pulling you towards a specific direction. You cannot throw away one or the other – only suppress it.
This ability to feel so much emotions – negative or positive – towards a specific situation is what makes us human. It’s okay to feel negativity, but it is not okay to feel it all the time. You want to hold a positive mindset at least 90-95% of your life.
What is a Positive Mindset?
There are many traits and characteristics associated with a positive mindset, including optimism, acceptance, resilience, gratitude, mindfulness, etc. I would’ve given you the definition, but you should know the difference between each word and if you don’t – no shame in the google game.
Positivity doesn’t always refer to quietly smiling and looking cheerful – honestly, I don’t trust people who are happy all the time. There is no way someone can find positivity in everything they do. Positivity is seeing the good part in life, but you must accept the bad scenarios too. You must not cover your eyes and turn around, pretending it doesn’t exist.
Positive thinking means approaching life’s challenges with a positive outlook and accepting the notion that sometimes the outcome may change. It does not necessarily mean avoiding or ignoring the negativity; instead, learn from it.
Good thoughts can trample self-doubts and push boundaries. Re-wiring your brain can aid you towards your goals instead of planting your feet in a single location. To change your mentality into a more positive one, you need to practice these simple habits and adapt them – similar to how you ride a bike, you will not forget how to do it.
1.Awareness of Yourself
When you’re aware of your thoughts and learn how to accept them, then you’re able to take a step towards a positive mindset. It would be best if you accept both positive and negative thoughts lurking inside your head.
This may seem easy, but the first step is always the hardest. Thoughts are continually lingering in your heads whether it is for yourself or others. You’re in the constant want to judge. The judging aspect of our lives is uncontrollable mainly since we want to degrade others and unfortunately ourselves.
Bringing in awareness and accepting the notion that we don’t enjoy the shoes your co-workers regularly wear or how a pimple in your face is ruining your life is essential.
Judging ourselves and others is not a wrong notion, but what we do with those details is essential.
Now that you learn to be aware and accept your thoughts, it is time to challenge them. You need to question whether these thoughts play any crucial roles in your life. Do these thoughts make you happier or aid you in accomplishing something?
Mentally complaining about your boss lack of work ethics – does it really change anything except granting you an exceptional headache.
Any thought or reaction that comes to your mind questions it.
3. Force Positivity
When you fill your brain with more positive thoughts such as how great the weather was that day or how the birds finally stop chirping at your window the less likely negative thoughts will jerk inside it. Eventually, your mind will automatically think of positive things instead of negative.
I’ve witnessed and done this so many times, comparing myself to someone else.
You need to remember, in a competition, your most significant competitor is yourself – not anyone else.
Comparing yourself with someone else won’t do anything except give your lower self-esteem.
“She can do it better than me.”
“He will get the promotion, not me.”
“Why did he get the promotion and not me?”
“She always gets the better grade.”
“The teacher likes her better because she is smarter than me.”
“He is better looking than me, that’s why he always gets the girl.”
Stop! You should not be comparing yourself to others. Why? Because their life is not the same as yours. Even twins experience different lives that alter their personality and physical attribute.
Comparing yourself to someone else will make you miserable.
Focus on yourself.
Unfortunately, many people have a hard time expressing themselves. I always recommend my kids – I use to work with kids – to write down their thoughts whenever they feel unhappy. Afterward, they can read it to me instead of telling me right away. They always calm down when they finish the note.
When you’re in an argument or feeling negative, write it down before furthering the conflict or take action. Write it and read it to yourself. What you’re feeling at that moment will not be the same the next day.
When you finish writing it, you can choose to read it to someone or shred it. You want a method to output your emotions whenever you feel negative instead of suppressing it inside your mind. You want to make room in your head for positive thoughts.
This will help clear your mind and figure out what triggers that specific situation.
It will not be easy, but consistency is the key.
I believe in you!